Pat Woods

My Aunt, before she passed, was quite sick with breast cancer.  She had it, we suspect, for over a year.  She did not have a family doctor.  She did not tell anyone she was sick.

I was in the hospital room when the doctor asked her why she had not gotten help earlier.  Her answer was “carelessness.”

I’m not sure what that meant. I do know that now without her around I miss her a lot.  I re-engaged her when I was out there to visit in Alberta and called when I was back in Nova Scotia.

We weren’t given the chance to rally around her and show her any family support.  Perhaps that’s how she wanted it.

I know that her suffering is over.  This Christmas I will light a candle for her and my deceased father but I will not follow her example.  I have a family doctor who I see even if I get the sniffles.  And I know that if I’m given the opportunity to fight a terminal disease I will take it.

She was my Mom’s best friend and sister to her ten siblings.  As we struggle to come to grips with her passing I simply want to let everyone know that time will heal this.

I completed Nanowrimo and wrote a book in a month.  I will edit it in January and submit it to outside editors for their work.  And, if it ever gets published it will be dedicated to the Aunt Pat I knew as a child – a skier, a bird watcher, a worker, a friend and gardener.

3 Responses to Pat Woods

  • Great picture! Great memories of your aunt. I’m glad you’ll be lighting a candle for her and for your dad.

  • I’m so sorry for your loss.

    I find that some of the older people in my family are very reluctant to go to a Dr. or to take pills that they need to. And it ends up making things worse.

    I’m like you, if I have something wrong I want to get it fixed as soon as I can.

  • Deborah Hale says:

    So sorry for your loss, Tara. When it comes to health problems, it can be so tempting to play ostrich and hope the problem will go away if we don’t acknowledge it. But I agree with you – health is something we need to take care of, for ourselves and our loved ones.

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